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ARE YOU RELATIONSHIP READY?
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You are a fairly content and complete person in your present single life.
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You attract good friends and have a satisfying social life.
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You pursue activities and interests because they are fun and enriching, not just because you may find dates there.
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You know (have identified) the type of person you are attracted to.
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You know the important qualities that you seek/desire in a mate.
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You have a good understanding of where/how your past relationships went wrong.
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You don't have unresolved issues or feelings from past relationships that block your ability to be truly open to a new relationship.
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You feel comfortable being who you are in a dating situation, and don't try to change yourself to please the other person.
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You enjoy the process of dating and getting to know someone.
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You know what you can't live without in a relationship.
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You know what you can't tolerate in a relationship.
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You don't expect your partner to be perfect or to meet all your needs.
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You can accept potential partners for who they are, and don’t try to make them who you want them to be
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You are attracted to people who are good for you and bring out the best in you.
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You know what you want your future life to be like.
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You trust that your life will work out for you if you are living it well.
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You take care of yourself, and don't want a relationship only for the purpose it can serve in providing for your needs, including
security.
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You know your limits and are comfortable enforcing them with others.
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If you answered 'true' to all or most of these questions, well done, you are relationship ready and know what to do to negotiate the ever-present challenges of being in a
relationship. If you answered 'false' to all or most of the questions, do yourself a favour. Book a session with a psychologist/relationship counsellor so you can learn the skills
required for being in a healthy and constructive relationship, and practice how to apply the skills in your daily life.
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Do you really know what intimacy is? Is it about intimate communication, sexual compatibility, handling relationship conflict well, or just having a
create your lasting love connection. Answer these questions and test your intimacy smarts.
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Your perfect partner is someone very much like you
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When you meet the "one" for you, you will know it.
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Conflict in a relationship is a sign that the partners are not compatible and will have difficulty making it last.
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You and your partner have many different values but are good at compromising and negotiating so this will not be an obstacle to
a good relationship.
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Trust in a relationship means that the other person will not hurt or seriously disappoint you.
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My partner has a lot of fears around commitment, but he/she loves me a lot and so this can be easily worked out.
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He/she is so jealous and attached to me; that is how I know that he/she loves me a lot.
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Whatever problems we have can be worked out if I love him/ her enough and I’m willing to work hard to fix it.
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If two people can communicate well, they can understand each other well.
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Men marry for sex and women marry for security.
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Respect is present in a relationship when the partners are in agreement with each other and support each other's views.
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NB: If you answered 'true' to all or most of these questions, please seek out the help of a psychologist, relationship counsellor or some good books on relationships, you have
been taught all the wrong perceptions about building a good relationship. If you answered 'false' to all or most of these questions, congratulations - you are well-prepared for
a long-lasting and balanced love relationship.
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