EXERCISE 4: RELATIONSHIP QUESTIONNAIRE

I think our relationship is	Very happy	happy	unhappy	very unhappy
My partner thinks our relationship is	Very happy	happy	unhappy	very unhappy

When disagreements arise, I think	I usually give in	my partner usually gives in	we mutually agree
When disagreements arise, my partner thinks	I usually give in	my partner usually gives in	we mutually agree

When it comes to social activities and recreation, I think	We do too much	we do just enough	we should do more
When it comes to social activities and recreation, my partner thinks	We do too much	we do just enough	we should do more

(for married couples)

I wish I had not married	Always	frequently		sometimes		never
I think my partner wishes s/he had not married	Always	frequently		sometimes		never
If I could live my life over, I would marry	the same person		a different person		not at all
If my partner could live his/her life over, I think s/he would marry	the same person		a different person		not at all

I want my partner to be a certain kind of person	always	frequently	sometimes	never
Details:
My partner wants me to be a certain kind of person	always	frequently	sometimes	never
Details:
During arguments, do you think you fight fairly	always	frequently	sometimes	never
Do you think your partner thinks you fight fairly	always	frequently	sometimes	never
Do you think your partner fights fairly	always	frequently	sometimes	never
Do you think your partner thinks he or she fight fairly	always	frequently	sometimes	never
I can be critical of my partner without being upset myself	always	frequently	sometimes	never
My partner can be critical of me without my becoming upset	always	frequently	sometimes	never
I think my partner disapproves of me	always	frequently	sometimes	never
I disapprove of my partner	always	frequently	sometimes	never
I think my partner does not like me the way I am	always	frequently	sometimes	never
I don't like my partner the way he or she is now	always	frequently	sometimes	never
I think my partner's outward response to me is different from what he or she is feeling inside	always	frequently	sometimes	never
My outward response to my partner is different from what I am feeling inside	always	frequently	sometimes	never
I feel a risk in being open and honest with my partner about my inner feelings	always	frequently	sometimes	never
I think my partner feels a risk in being open and honest with me about his or her inner feelings	always	frequently	sometimes	never
What other people think of me affects the way my partner feels about me	always	frequently	sometimes	never
What other people think of my partner affects the way I feel about him or her	always	frequently	sometimes	never
When I'm honest with my partner about my feelings, he or she gets upset or withdraws	always	frequently	sometimes	never
When my partner is honest with me about his or her feelings, I get upset or withdraw	always	frequently	sometimes	never